Tea parties began in the early nineteenth century as a simple mid-day ‘lift’. They rapidly grew into elaborate social occasions where all types of dainty treats were served and the tea was spiked with sherry. Although not as popular now as in the past, tea party themes for gatherings are a novel way to bring your friends and family together. Tea parties are traditionally very floral, feminine affairs but don’t hesitate to invite your male friends. You can demand they dress the part in jackets and hats or if that’s of no interest, promise them copious spiked tea and first choice in sweet treats. There is little occasion to wear hats in the 21st century so it’s all the more important to do so at your tea party. Have a competition for the most extravagant chapeau and remind your guests to match their outfits accordingly. Decorate your tables and the room with bouquets and scented candles so your guests are greeted with the smell of fresh flowers. A few weeks before the party, you might consider combing the thrift stores for tea-cups, saucers and other tea party essentials. It’s not necessary to match them; in fact mis-matched china gives a charming, eccentric twist on what might otherwise be a little stuffy. In lieu of buying, you could always ask members of your family if they have any china slumbering in cabinets that might be suitable. Plastic or real lace table cloths will complete the look. Have fun with the food and serve impractical crust-less watercress sandwiches, petits-fours, clotted cream and scones. A variety of teas gives your guests choice and a variety of sherries or brandies makes it interesting. Many web sites and reference books have authentic Victorian recipes for cordials and other refreshments if you wish to be utterly faithful to the theme. If you’re worried about conversation dragging, you could hire a tea reader to make the rounds at your parties. If your budget is limited, you could research the basics of tea reading and place an instruction card on each table so your guests can do it themselves. A tea party theme gathering runs the risk of being formal. It’s better in this case to go over the top for planning and enjoy watching your modern day friends gossip over three tiered cake stands. Remember to keep a sense of humor and your guests will too.